Friday, February 17, 2006

Valentine Surprises

Recently, most of the surprises in our family have been initiated by Andrew while I have been the happy recipient. This Valentines day, however, he had no idea what was coming & I got him good.

While Ieva & I were in the States, I decided to take advantage of a magazine insert that advertised a free sitting & cheap prints for a department store photo shoot. Besides my senior pictures, I've never done the professional photo shoot gig - largely because I think we are capable of taking our own creative photos & all the props & backdrops at the department stores can often get pretty cheesy (in my humble opinion). I decided to take ieva & try it nonetheless, and since she was in a fantastic mood, the results were pretty darn cute. My original hope was that I would be able to pick up the prints before I left to come back to Lithuania, not tell Andrew I did it, and then present him with a beautiful framed photo of his darling daughter on Valentines day. I learned, however, that these places take 7-10 days to process & create prints, so I returned home empty handed...but still didn't tell Andrew we had done it. I wondered if he'd check our bank account online & figure it out when he saw the charge for JCPenny Portrait Studios...but luckily for me, it was only listed online as JCPenny - keeping it nice & ambiguous.

So, the 14th came & I sent Andrew an email with the following as an attachment:
He didn't get a chance to see it while at work, so when he came home he opened it in front of me. His first reaction upon seeing the photo wasn't "Awwww - how sweet!" or even "Wow - what a great photo of Ieva - how'd you do it?" No. My husband's initial reaction was instead "What'd you do? Cut & paste Ieva's head on to some other baby's body??" Leave it to Andrew to think that there's no way I'd do something as involved as getting a baby photo shoot done without telling him. Once I finally convinced him that the body in the photo did indeed belong to his daughter as well, his next question was about how much I payed for the whole deal...but that's where my replication of our conversation will end. I'm convinced that those department store photographers are trained to take way more adorable photos than necessary so you'll be so smitten by all of them that you won't be able to make a decision & order prints of everything. I didn't order prints of quite all of them...but for an extra $5.00, I was able to get small digital versions of them sent to me electronically so now we can share them with you!
Ieva in her favorite blanket (thanks, Great Aunt Claudia!)

Ieva rolling in roses

Adorable, yes...but can she be any more posed?

The Stave girls

My personal favorite...ieva's really into touching faces these days

Sunday, February 12, 2006

beginnings & endings all in one place

Thanks to all of you who prayed for us & sent your encouragement as ieva & I travelled to the States & back again to be with my family. Ieva did amazingly well on the flights in both directions, but we've been struggling to help her get her days & nights sorted out during this past week since we've been back home. Jetlag's brutal at all ages!!

Our time in Michigan was an incredibly special and meaningful time with family - specifically with my Grandmother before she went to be with Jesus. I won't leave you in suspense...Grandma took her last breath around 11am on Sunday, January 29th, and my mom & I were there at her side as she journeyed from this world to the next.


Grandma & her grandkids: Dayn, Erik, Kim & Ieva (missing my brother Corey & his son, Elijah)

Mom, ieva & I went to join my Aunts Shelley & Gloria who were already with Grandma at her apartment on Wednesday, January 25th. At this point, she needed around-the-clock care, getting up multiple times in the night to use the bathroom and wasn't able to walk on her own. Mom, Shelley & Gloria spent all of their energies helping Grandma from her bed to her chair in the morning and back in the evening, as well as making her food & feeding her, helping her use her portable commode, getting up with her in the night, and dialoguing with doctors, nurses & hospice employees about her rapidly declining condition. Grandma spent most of her time during those last few days sleeping in her chair, and while she slept the 4 of us played with ieva and Shelley's puppy Izzy and spent quality time catching up & reminiscing. Having that kind of time with my mom & aunts was really fantastic.


My mom & aunt Shelley with their babies, ieva & izzy

I've never been so involved in experiencing the end of life as I was during my week with my Grandma. Every day we watched her body shut down as she grew more & more weak, being able to do less and less, and sleeping more and more. By Saturday evening, she had lost most of her responsiveness and by Sunday morning, wasn't responding to us at all. The hospice nurse said that there was a good chance that she knew we were there with her, despite her ability to respond to us.


I am thankful that when we first saw Grandma on Sunday and then came back again on Wednesday, she was quite aware and responsive, and was happy to meet her only great granddaughter. Mom and Shelley both commented that there was something special about having such a new, young life present at the end of another. As mom & I stood by Grandma's bedside just after she took her last breath, mom asked for ieva, saying that she needed to hold a baby, and hugged her tight as we wept. It truly was a special time.

There wasn't a funeral or memorial service (at Grandma's request), but over the course of her last weekend, my aunt's family drove up from Kentucky and my brother and his family flew out from Portland giving her the opportunity to see her entire family before her last day. Everyone also enjoyed the opportunity to meet ieva - especially her 5 year old cousin Elijah.

The Cliffe Family together again - Mom, Dad, Corey, Kim, Elijah & Ieva

My last week there was filled with taking care of final arrangements and then I was able to connect with some friends back at my parents home. My childhood friend Tarla & her 3 year old daughter Hannah drove up to see us on Wendesday, then on Thursday, my dear friend Jen drove up from Indianapolis to spend the day and night with us. On Friday I drove to Calvin College to reconnect with my old friend Kari (from our days at Spring Hill Camps in the early 90's) and to see Brandie (who just left LCC to work at Calvin last summer). It was great to get some quality time with friends as well as with family.

And on ieva's last night with her Grandma & Grandpa, she decided to impress them & roll over for the first time in their living room! We were all very excited - especially her Grandma!! We said a tearful goodbye on Saturday, still feeling the intensity of the emotions we had experienced together throughout the past two weeks, and arrived back in Klaipeda on Sunday evening to be greeted by a very lonely daddy eagerly awaiting our arrival!